Comments on: The Girls Who Went Away by Ann Fessler

By: Maria

Maria — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 10:09:14 +0000

I am one of the girls that went away, my daughter is now 30, we are developing a relationship. This pain should never have been brought on to me, or anyone. Its a life of SEVERE pain.

By: Pro-life terrorists: eight murders haven’t been enough « Jesurgislac’s Journal

Wed, 17 Feb 2010 09:22:58 +0000

[...] Chuck Pelletier, apparently the clean face for the pro-lifer movement in Texas, claims that he has nothing to do with producing or passing out this card, but that everything on it is true. (He and his wife run the “Mother & Unborn Baby Care” crisis pregnancy center in Fort Worth: I have no idea what links this particular crisis pregnancy center may have to the coercive adoption industry, but “follow the money” is a good rule anywhere – and the adoption industry in the US is huge and has nothing to do with respecting women as mothers.) [...]

By: Nancy Burdeau

Nancy Burdeau — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 02:20:51 +0000

I found my birthson!!!!! Now we need to slowly get to know each, my heart is sooooo overwhelm and happy. When I talked to him I just wanted to hold him as I did when he was a baby. But he is to big for that now. I still cry for happiness, and pinch myself to make sure I am not dreaming. This was the greatest Christmas Gift my family and I could have. I told all my kids(they never knew) and my parents the first day, they too are excited. Crossing my fingers that he and I can be friends. Nancy

By: Cara

Cara — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 18:50:54 +0000

Uh, thanks?

By: Constance Spellworthy

Constance Spellworthy — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 09:26:51 +0000

The word “some” should be spelled “sum.”

By: Nancy Burdeau

Nancy Burdeau — Tue, 02 Jun 2009 01:40:37 +0000

I am reading the book ” The girls that went away” Tears are coming to my eyes as I read it. I too had no choice but to give up my beautiful son up for adoption, he was born April 19, 1973. I hid my pregnancy for 7 months( I did not believe in abortion) I wanted my son to have a life, and I wanted it to be with me. But when my family and the birthfather’s family found out(even though he wanted to marry me)right away I was wisp away to the Florence Critten Home for unwed mothers. I got very little counciling, it was very lonely. I too was dropped off at the hospital in terrible labor, left alone Wanting a hand to hold. Instead the nurses left me alone and unplugged my nurse buzzer. I tried so hard to change my parents mind on keeping my son Michael, and almost had changed their mind when the Social Workers found out they called them and it was a done deal, I had to give up my child. I have never gone a day without him on my mind. I can see his little face. I carry a picture of him in my wallet always. I am now trying to reunite with him. As above, we truely were the girls who were sent away, we were victims of the times, and society in which we live! I will never stop searching…..I need to know he is OK. We were lied to so much back then.

By: Bekki Farlee

Bekki Farlee — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 03:00:58 +0000

I gave a daughter up for adoption in August of 1970 at age 17. It was the 2nd most difficult thing I have ever done in my life and I am now 56. My mother gave me no choice. It was maternity home and adoption or move out and be on my own with no money or emotional support.I had not even finished my senior year of high school. Truly we girls who went away were victims of the times and the society in which we lived.

By: Mary O'Grady

Mary O'Grady — Fri, 20 Feb 2009 20:53:14 +0000

Karen is right.
Women and girls who want to carry unexpected pregnancies to term should have help to keep and raise their babies.
Ann Fessler in her excellent book explains the cruelty of adoption. Its very existence depends on that cruelty never being known for what it is.

By: Karen Wilson-Buterbaugh

Karen Wilson-Buterbaugh — Thu, 19 Feb 2009 17:07:59 +0000

Thank you so much for this wonderful review of Ann Fessler’s book. I am “Karen I, Virginia” in it and am very grateful to Ann and others who know The Truth for speaking about the Baby Scoop Era and the mothers who were exploited for their babies by those who made their living from separating natural mother and child. It is shameful, and I believe, illegal what occurred then. It isn’t much better today either. The industry has found very clever ways today to remove infants from mothers. The brainwashing, thought reform techniques and coercive persuasions are still alive and well in America. It MUST stop. People, please do not adopt.

By: Mary Everett

Mary Everett — Mon, 09 Feb 2009 23:17:08 +0000

I found my birthmother when I was 32. We have now known each other for 32 years. I have thanked her many times for her unselfish decision to have me adopted, but I know it has caused her a lifetime of pain. Thank you for this book. I remember the girls in my school who went away. My younger daughter got pregnanty at 19 and chose abortion. I respected her choice and helped her pay for the procedure. She and I have bnever regretted it.