Hopefully you’ll understand. If you don’t . . . I guess it’s a good think that it’s my fucking blog and not yours.

If you’d like to remark on what an ass Mike is, and how he deserves to die a slow and painful death for saying that it’s okay to rape a woman because she put herself in a sexual situation, and also that he should learn how to read before behaving in a manner that he thinks suggests he can, pick another thread. One that doesn’t have a lot of comments. Whatever.

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Yet, this world is not as black and white as we think it is. This particularly applies to realms of communication. This girl put herself in a position of sexuality, and at I believe the article says that her response to oral sex was “All right.” Moreover, her attempts to convey that things were not to her liking was by “pushing on his abdomen.” Another difficult thing to interpret.

Now, I am about to be attacked for the views I just expressed because its not of the crucify Shaw-Fox variety. Nevertheless, can people see how there was a communication breakdown in this situation. And that at the time, both parties involved CONSENTED to the actions.

Was he too rough with her? Yes. Was his comment obscene? Yes. Does that detract for him direct consent to the actions that then happened? No. Additionally, we have no idea of the timeline of the incidents. Did Helen become uncomfortable with the situation, articulate that discomfort through her incredibly precise manner and then he stopped? We don’t know because the timeline is absent from the story. We don’t know because we were not there.

Although it is silly of me to try and make any attempt at showing the complexity of this issue. I figured one more man crucified at the hands of this site will be enjoyable for you and I’ll feel better that you have to result to timeless insults and attacks on my character rather than giving this debate any real thought.

In conclusion, rape is a horrible thing; but this is for a court of law to decide, and the system must be given more credence. Otherwise Cara, your statistics will not change anytime soon and that scares me.

So, feel free to fuck off, rape-apologist.

And damn, here I am, sitting in my chair, doing what more or less amounts to a full-time, unpaid job, being lazy. Andre is right. Maybe if cared about women’s issues, I’d go volunteer two days every week with an organization that fights for women’s rights. Maybe I’d pick one that deals with the two issues I care most about and write most about, say an organization that fights for reproductive rights nationally and also runs a local rape crisis center. Hmm. Thanks for opening my eyes, Andre. I never would have thought of that one on my own.

But hey, maybe he wants me to go break windows. Or track down Shaw-Fox myself and beat the crap out of him. It does seem that our concepts of “doing something” are pretty different.

For the record, I’m in no way trying to claim that I don’t have a large ego. That would just be silly; I write a blog, for fuck’s sake. And I’m a textbook Leo. But I also think that many people mistake confidence, intelligence and self-pride for arrogance, particularly when it comes to women. I like to think that I generally stay on the positive side of that line, and I know that when I don’t, someone with at least half a brain calls me on it. And it’s both highly annoying if slightly amusing when people decide to leave comments personally attacking me with wild allegations without bothering to do so much as read my tiny little bio page.

How would you feel if one of your friends that you respect was suddenly accused of rape

I would feel like “oh fuck, I’m friends with a rapist.” Unless, of course, the person who accused him was a mean, horrible and vindictive compulsive liar. I don’t currently know anyone who fits that bill, and have met exceedingly few in my life who would. At least one, maybe two, three at absolute most. I’ve met a pretty decent amount of people. So: “oh fuck, I’m friends with a rapist.” Or, maybe even: “oh fuck, I’m related to a rapist.” Ass.

We’re all people, and I think the least we owe each other is a bit of understanding and compassion.

Yeah, but apparently only if they’re rapists. If they’ve been raped, fuck ‘em. Ass.

By your rules, you think that less than 1% of rapists should be held responsible for their actions, that less than 1% of victims deserve to name their rapists.

Here’s something that nothing is considering, fuckheads: If the victim is a stupid lying whore setting out to destroy some poor innocent boy’s reputation, why didn’t she name him in her letter to the editor? Why did she not name him after that, until his name was already out, released by someone other than her, by people she apparently does not know? Did she make up a rape but hadn’t decided who she was going to accuse yet? And then some crazy vigilante feminists decided for her? Oh yeah, that makes a WHOLE lot more sense than the idea that she was actually raped.

Seriously. Fucking asses.

Does anyone here have anything intelligent left to say? I’m beginning to seriously consider shutting down the comment thread. This shit is making me hate humanity even more than normal, and reminding me why there is a very small handful of feminists out there who do actually hate men. And I don’t like it.

The thing that bugs me most about this article is how publicly this private matter was taken care of. Helen Hunter decided to go to the press before she went to the police which in my opinion is entirely unforgivable. This should have been handled in a court of law before it should be expressed in such a final manner in such a widely circulated manner.

I withhold judgement on whether or not Morgan is guilty. It’s not my job because I would let my feelings about rape get in the way and about the accused.

If you can imagine for just a moment that Morgan is taken to court and found innocent (I’m not saying it may or may not happen), Morgan’s reputation will be ruined. After the publishing of this article and of his picture, Morgan will now be recognized by Portland for a crime that he didn’t commit.

If he is guilty, then he’s guilty and the public deserves to know about it.

This entire thing feels a bit overwhelming even from the sidelines. How would you feel if one of your friends that you respect was suddenly accused of rape. It would be confusing to say the least. We’re all people, and I think the least we owe each other is a bit of understanding and compassion. I know that even though I am not directly involved, this has been an interesting wake up call in what I believe is right and wrong.

If you feel the need to ban me over this, then whatever I hope you’re happy in your bubble. I just wish that people would take the time to look at it from all perspectives. There have been a lot of horrible things said about Helen (attention whore, liar), Morgan, and my school, and the entirety of all the arguments are all based on hearsay.

But you won’t start thinking that way. So, please. Fuck off and have a nice life. And by “nice” I mean miserable.