Comments on: Why We Can’t Afford to Dismiss Nick Eriksen http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/ Sun, 14 Mar 2010 00:23:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Rape myths, rape myth acceptance, and community perceptions of victims of sexual violence — Hoyden About Town http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-10992 Rape myths, rape myth acceptance, and community perceptions of victims of sexual violence — Hoyden About Town Thu, 12 Mar 2009 08:20:44 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-10992 [...] the nick eriksen debacle [...] [...] the nick eriksen debacle [...]

]]> By: The Myths Encompassed by The Rapeman : The Curvature http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-9133 The Myths Encompassed by The Rapeman : The Curvature Mon, 22 Dec 2008 17:50:50 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-9133 [...] People dismiss rape victims based on their choosing to stay with a rapist, even if it is out of fear, confusion, an attempt to forget, or Stockholm Syndrome.  In this view, if a woman doesn’t behave properly, the rape doesn’t count — as the voice over either notes or corroborates in its assertion that the Rapeman comic doesn’t portray the actual victims as “victims.”  The concept of Rapeman’s victims enjoying the violence not only promotes the myths that rape isn’t so bad, and all women need is a good deep-dicking to straighten out and start being submissive, but also reinforces the falsehood that if a woman felt physical pleasure during a rape, she wasn’t actually raped. [...] [...] People dismiss rape victims based on their choosing to stay with a rapist, even if it is out of fear, confusion, an attempt to forget, or Stockholm Syndrome.  In this view, if a woman doesn’t behave properly, the rape doesn’t count — as the voice over either notes or corroborates in its assertion that the Rapeman comic doesn’t portray the actual victims as “victims.”  The concept of Rapeman’s victims enjoying the violence not only promotes the myths that rape isn’t so bad, and all women need is a good deep-dicking to straighten out and start being submissive, but also reinforces the falsehood that if a woman felt physical pleasure during a rape, she wasn’t actually raped. [...]

]]> By: ashley http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-6443 ashley Mon, 28 Jul 2008 03:57:12 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-6443 This is a brilliant article, which has opened my eyes to some confusion I have been having. A couple of weeks ago my partner 'went down' on me completely out of the blue. I wasn't in the mood for sex at the time but I did become sexually aroused against my better judgement and ended up having full sex. I'm very confused, have I been raped? My head tells me no, but my heart says i dont know! I do feel uncomfortable about the incident. Any advice welcome! thnx! This is a brilliant article, which has opened my eyes to some confusion I have been having. A couple of weeks ago my partner ‘went down’ on me completely out of the blue. I wasn’t in the mood for sex at the time but I did become sexually aroused against my better judgement and ended up having full sex. I’m very confused, have I been raped? My head tells me no, but my heart says i dont know! I do feel uncomfortable about the incident. Any advice welcome! thnx!

]]> By: Lilith http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-6440 Lilith Sun, 27 Jul 2008 21:26:48 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-6440 No matter who is saying it or who is hearing it; NO MEANS NO!!!!! No matter who is saying it or who is hearing it; NO MEANS NO!!!!!

]]> By: Day of Blogs » 32: Explaining Rape http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-6427 Day of Blogs » 32: Explaining Rape Sun, 27 Jul 2008 04:32:33 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-6427 [...] post Why We Can’t Afford to Dismiss Nick Eriksen is the one I wrote for this year’s Blog Against Sexual Violence.  There’s a lot in [...] [...] post Why We Can’t Afford to Dismiss Nick Eriksen is the one I wrote for this year’s Blog Against Sexual Violence.  There’s a lot in [...]

]]> By: Cara http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-4133 Cara Sat, 05 Apr 2008 19:09:17 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-4133 Ha, you're right! What cowards. Ha, you’re right! What cowards.

]]> By: Depresso http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-4132 Depresso Sat, 05 Apr 2008 19:01:20 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-4132 Arrived at this late, as I felt I wanted to take a little time to steel myself before attempting even a short peek at his blog. It appears to have been deleted! Whether blogger pulled it, or Eriksen (oh the irony of a BNP member having what is clearly such a good, <i>British</i> name!) has deleted himself, I couldn't tell you. Arrived at this late, as I felt I wanted to take a little time to steel myself before attempting even a short peek at his blog. It appears to have been deleted! Whether blogger pulled it, or Eriksen (oh the irony of a BNP member having what is clearly such a good, British name!) has deleted himself, I couldn’t tell you.

]]> By: GallingGalla (fka RachelPhilPa) http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-4128 GallingGalla (fka RachelPhilPa) Sat, 05 Apr 2008 16:58:58 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-4128 Cara, thank you for putting the physical-pleasure thing in the open. My sexually abusive former partner never did anything that physically hurt, and most of the time he got me to have an orgasm, so, yes, there was a few moments of physical pleasure. But that took place within a fog of dissociation that I had to create for myself. It's not something that I ever talk about for exactly the fears that you mention. Nor do I talk about why I stayed with him so long. And this: <i>The crime of rape is the imposition on another person’s body. The crime of rape is taking away another person’s right to make their own decisions, deciding what will and will not happen to their bodies. The crime of rape is failing to respect personal boundaries and enacting your will on another.</i> This is also the fundamental definition of torture (with the added intent of causing physical or psychological pain or terror), and hence, this is why I consider torture to be rape. Cara, thank you for putting the physical-pleasure thing in the open. My sexually abusive former partner never did anything that physically hurt, and most of the time he got me to have an orgasm, so, yes, there was a few moments of physical pleasure. But that took place within a fog of dissociation that I had to create for myself.

It’s not something that I ever talk about for exactly the fears that you mention. Nor do I talk about why I stayed with him so long.

And this:

The crime of rape is the imposition on another person’s body. The crime of rape is taking away another person’s right to make their own decisions, deciding what will and will not happen to their bodies. The crime of rape is failing to respect personal boundaries and enacting your will on another.

This is also the fundamental definition of torture (with the added intent of causing physical or psychological pain or terror), and hence, this is why I consider torture to be rape.

]]> By: yazikus http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-4119 yazikus Fri, 04 Apr 2008 21:51:16 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-4119 Reading through his blog (painful though it was) I noticed an interesting theme in several entries. Whenever parenting came up he seemed to go by 3 basic tenets 1. "Women are for bearing, men are for rearing." 2. Women are ruining families becase they are working instead of staying at home with the children. 3. In a custody dispuit, the children should obviously go to the father because his parenting is more important. Am I crazy, or does he really believe any of that makes sense???? How do people fuction with that level of doublethink? Sorry for ranting- Cara, I've not posted before but am an avid reader of your blog, thanks for all of your work! Reading through his blog (painful though it was) I noticed an interesting theme in several entries.
Whenever parenting came up he seemed to go by 3 basic tenets
1. “Women are for bearing, men are for rearing.”
2. Women are ruining families becase they are working instead of staying at home with the children.
3. In a custody dispuit, the children should obviously go to the father because his parenting is more important.

Am I crazy, or does he really believe any of that makes sense????
How do people fuction with that level of doublethink?
Sorry for ranting- Cara, I’ve not posted before but am an avid reader of your blog, thanks for all of your work!

]]> By: eruvande http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismiss-nick-eriksen/#comment-4115 eruvande Fri, 04 Apr 2008 18:07:07 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/2008/04/03/why-we-cant-afford-to-dismis-nick-eriksen/#comment-4115 <blockquote>Even years after the supposed offence took place they can waltz into a police station and destroy a man’s life without a shred of evidence.</blockquote> Oh, in the short day since I've looked at teh interwebs, did the stats for rape convictions magically shoot through the roof? Because when I left my computer yesterday, women's rape allegations were still not being taken seriously. I suppose I should be...happy? Fuck this guy.

Even years after the supposed offence took place they can waltz into a police station and destroy a man’s life without a shred of evidence.

Oh, in the short day since I’ve looked at teh interwebs, did the stats for rape convictions magically shoot through the roof? Because when I left my computer yesterday, women’s rape allegations were still not being taken seriously. I suppose I should be…happy?

Fuck this guy.

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