Comments on: Rape Apologism Ends in Suicide http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/ Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:04:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Cara http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/#comment-16358 Cara Thu, 28 Jan 2010 16:30:16 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=848#comment-16358 Hi Jane, Thank you for your comment, and for sharing your story. You're not alone, and talking about it is a brave thing to do. I'm very sorry that someone did that to you, and that others have treated you the way they have afterward. I'm worried about you, and I hope that you will seek some help. <a href="http://www.rainn.org/" rel="nofollow">RAINN has 24 hour rape survivor hotlines</a>, and you can call to speak with someone (1.800.656.HOPE), or use <a href="http://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-online-hotline" rel="nofollow">their online chat services</a> if that is how you fee more comfortable. If you'd prefer to talk to someone in person rather than online or over the phone, they also have <a href="http://centers.rainn.org/" rel="nofollow">resources for how to find a rape crisis service with in-person counseling in your area</a>, and may even be able to help you with that even if you're outside the U.S. If you feel that you're in immediate danger of harming yourself, I hope you'll also please call a suicide hotline like <a href="http://www.preventsuicide.us/hopeline-new/gethelpnow.html" rel="nofollow">Hopeline</a>. Hopeline offers 24-hour phone hotlines (1-800-422-HOPE, if you're in the U.S.), as well as <a href="http://www.preventsuicide.us/hopeline-new/gethelpnow.html" rel="nofollow">online chat and email support</a>. <a href="http://www.befrienders.org/" rel="nofollow">Here are resources for suicide hotlines outside the U.S.</a> I'm also a rape survivor, and I also have a history of suicidal thoughts, so I understand that this is very difficult. But I hope that you'll take care of yourself, and use some of the resources I've provided to help you get through this. Best, Cara Hi Jane,

Thank you for your comment, and for sharing your story. You’re not alone, and talking about it is a brave thing to do. I’m very sorry that someone did that to you, and that others have treated you the way they have afterward.

I’m worried about you, and I hope that you will seek some help. RAINN has 24 hour rape survivor hotlines, and you can call to speak with someone (1.800.656.HOPE), or use their online chat services if that is how you fee more comfortable. If you’d prefer to talk to someone in person rather than online or over the phone, they also have resources for how to find a rape crisis service with in-person counseling in your area, and may even be able to help you with that even if you’re outside the U.S.

If you feel that you’re in immediate danger of harming yourself, I hope you’ll also please call a suicide hotline like Hopeline. Hopeline offers 24-hour phone hotlines (1-800-422-HOPE, if you’re in the U.S.), as well as online chat and email support. Here are resources for suicide hotlines outside the U.S.

I’m also a rape survivor, and I also have a history of suicidal thoughts, so I understand that this is very difficult. But I hope that you’ll take care of yourself, and use some of the resources I’ve provided to help you get through this.

Best,
Cara

]]> By: Jane Doe http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/#comment-16356 Jane Doe Thu, 28 Jan 2010 03:57:17 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=848#comment-16356 in fact, I can assure you that I will be dead within a month. Goodnight, all. in fact, I can assure you that I will be dead within a month. Goodnight, all.

]]> By: Jane Doe http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/#comment-16355 Jane Doe Thu, 28 Jan 2010 03:54:49 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=848#comment-16355 i was raped by a man who was identified and convicted to four and a half years in jail, yes by a panel of women judges. Upon appeal, his sentencce was "suspended". He has never seen the inside of a jail cell. I can't say that the idea of suicide is not tempting. i was raped by a man who was identified and convicted to four and a half years in jail, yes by a panel of women judges. Upon appeal, his sentencce was “suspended”. He has never seen the inside of a jail cell.

I can’t say that the idea of suicide is not tempting.

]]> By: Rape myths, rape myth acceptance, and community perceptions of victims of sexual violence — Hoyden About Town http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/#comment-10991 Rape myths, rape myth acceptance, and community perceptions of victims of sexual violence — Hoyden About Town Thu, 12 Mar 2009 08:20:28 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=848#comment-10991 [...] a woman who committed suicide after being blamed for her own rape [...] [...] a woman who committed suicide after being blamed for her own rape [...]

]]> By: Moxy http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/#comment-6733 Moxy Mon, 11 Aug 2008 01:30:20 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=848#comment-6733 Keep doing this. Keep writing about it and telling these stories, even though they are painful. These women need someone on their side, even after death. Rape, assault and abuse of women is still very much a secret in our society. That's why we have to keep talking about it. Each voice that speaks up makes it harder for others to push it all away.... Keep doing this. Keep writing about it and telling these stories, even though they are painful. These women need someone on their side, even after death.

Rape, assault and abuse of women is still very much a secret in our society. That’s why we have to keep talking about it. Each voice that speaks up makes it harder for others to push it all away….

]]> By: konstanze http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/#comment-6363 konstanze Tue, 22 Jul 2008 22:12:00 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=848#comment-6363 The fact that the detective also worked at Dominican College should have made him all the <i>more</i> invested in sending these rapists to jail. The fact that the detective also worked at Dominican College should have made him all the more invested in sending these rapists to jail.

]]> By: Cara http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/#comment-6317 Cara Sat, 19 Jul 2008 14:20:50 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=848#comment-6317 . . . one of the defendants is named JOHN LENNON? I think a fairy just died. Or perhaps a whole fairy colony. . . . one of the defendants is named JOHN LENNON?

I think a fairy just died. Or perhaps a whole fairy colony.

]]> By: Angry Crowe http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/#comment-6299 Angry Crowe Thu, 17 Jul 2008 17:34:55 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=848#comment-6299 Of course the newspapers don't release the names of the rapists for whatever fucking reason. Fuck that! If you dig deep enough you can find anything. I found the names here: http://dockets.justia.com/docket/court-nysdce/case_no-7:2007cv11279/case_id-317998/ Dominican College of Blauvelt, Mary Eileen O'Brien, John Lennon, John Prescott, Carlyle Hicks, Richard Fegins, Jr., Kenneth A. Thorne, Jr., Isaiah Lynch and Terrell E. Hill Of course the newspapers don’t release the names of the rapists for whatever fucking reason. Fuck that! If you dig deep enough you can find anything. I found the names here:

http://dockets.justia.com/docket/court-nysdce/case_no-7:2007cv11279/case_id-317998/

Dominican College of Blauvelt, Mary Eileen O’Brien, John Lennon, John Prescott, Carlyle Hicks, Richard Fegins, Jr., Kenneth A. Thorne, Jr., Isaiah Lynch and Terrell E. Hill

]]> By: BettyBoondoggle http://thecurvature.com/2008/07/14/rape-apologism-ends-in-suicide/#comment-6296 BettyBoondoggle Thu, 17 Jul 2008 16:31:44 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=848#comment-6296 "My solution - remove males from civilized society. Sorry. That's my overwhelming feeling of feebleness and powerlessness talking. RIP Megan. I'm sorry. “My solution –

remove males from civilized society.

Sorry. That’s my overwhelming feeling of feebleness and powerlessness talking.

RIP Megan. I’m sorry.

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