What a stupid fucking question. …I was gonna quote Cara’s response to that, and then reply, but instead I’m just gonna link to her article…
And instead of posting this as a long-ass comment on Cara’s thread, I decided to post it here and see if…

Anyway, it was hard to argue with her because she was so raw about it–so emotional and fragile and then one day I just laid it out there. I told her: “I’m sorry that your parents have been emotionally abusing you for all of your life, telling you this story by your cradle and at your sweet sixteen party. I’m sorry that they have done this to you–it is abusive. But, you have to understand that what other women do with their bodies does not erase your existence. It doesn’t make your life invalid. Your mother made a choice. Every woman, especially those who may very well die as a result of pregnancy, deserves a choice. Please stop thinking that when we talk about abortion, that we are talking about YOU.”

Anyway, the gist was the above. But, seriously, she was abused by her parents for religions and political purposes. She was one of those protesters at clinics who sobbed and wailed and seriously looked like she was going to have a seizure. It was nothing short of child abuse and her own obsessive ideation of the issue–again, as if to lose an argument on abortion could somehow bring about her own extinction.

I bet that that is more common among Fundies who do regard birth/childbirth as “Eve’s curse” more so than freely made choices about one’s family and body. When all you can imagine is the punishment, the inevitability of motherhood, the idea that your mother might have had another path in life if she felt empowered to make choices (like, say, not to marry your asshole Dad, maybe to work on her career, etc.) if you are as selfish and insecure as many on Patriarchy Rocks side, well, abortion is all about YOU.

peace

“Did your Mother abort you?” Before they could answer, I answered for them, saying, “No, she did not. She gave you life.”

Yes, she CHOSE to give me life. She was not compelled or required to do so. No Woman is.

Peace,
Jenna

I cannot imagine.

It’s one of the thigns I hate about the idea that All Mothers Everywhere Always Love Their Children – it creates situations where people who have god-awful relationships with their mothers are often not believed when they try and talk abotu them. (Not that I’m saying this has happened to you, Anna, but it’s happened to my husband when he’s tried to talk about similiar issues.)

My mother is pro-choice. I suspect part of why she’s pro-choice is because she got to choose when to have my brother and I. I know for a fact I was a wanted baby. I don’t need some forced-birther to tell me anything else.

is not the same as the other Anna. Two different commenters.

It’s been 43 years now, and I’m pretty sure she still feels like a filthy sinner about this. It would have been so much better for her had her choices not been so limited.