One of my best friends died last night.
I don’t know what to say or how long I’ll be gone. I’ve had a post scheduled to go up on Saturday for a while now. But other than that . . . I don’t have anything to write, and don’t know when I will.
She was a big Beatles fan, too. Often commented on my Beatles posts, in fact. I’m not sure how she felt about this song, but I don’t even know what else to do right now other than listen to it:
I’m still waiting for that answer. And I miss her already.
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I’m so sorry to hear that. I wish you comfort and peace.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your friends family.
I am so sorry for your loss, Cara. Nothing anyone can say can make this easier for you, but you will be in my thoughts and prayers, as well as her family and other friends.
Hugs and sorrows, Cara.
I am so sorry this happened -as someone who recently celebrated the 10 year anniversary of surviving my own suicide attempt, I am so glad to be alive, and so sad that we lose people to suicide every day. I love that you chose this song to focus on right now, it is absolutely a song I have clung to in my darkest moments.
Blessings to you, Cara. I will keep you and your friend in my prayers, if that is ok.
{{{Cara}}}}
Sometimes there isn’t any way to stop the pain. I wish it were different.
I’m so sorry for your loss and your friend’s. You’ll be in my thoughts. Loss through suicide has touched my life as well and if I may be so bold to say: try to avoid thinking or ruminating “what could I have done to prevent this.” Our own minds can be so cruel when trying to cope with death and dying. Silence that voice if you can (if it peeks out of the crevices of your grief–give it a gentle “shush,” not a shut up, but do try to ignore it). Grieve in your own time, in your own way. Give strength to others where you can, that often helps as well. Remember to eat and sleep.
Peace
Oh, Cara, I’m so sorry for your loss. We are thinking of you and wishing you the best during this time.
I’m sorry Cara
Oh man, I’m sorry. That’s just awful.
It’s okay to feel whatever you feel, even if you think it’s strange or angry or whatever.
It’ll get better.
Hang on, Cara. My sister, who was one of my best friends, died of suicide last March, last Thursday was 8 months. She loved the Beatles too, I have been sleeping clutching her stuffed Octopus toy – Octopus’s Garden was one of her favorites.
All I can say is hang on. I strongly suggest the free support groups for suicide survivors run by the Samaritans or the American Society for Suicide Prevention (ASFP), when you are ready.
The next week or two will be a blur, with services and everything. Especially with a holiday in there. It was the Thursday before Easter that my sister died. During that time remember to eat healthy foods, drink plenty of water, stay away from alcohol and such (it isn’t really going to help) and cry as much as you feel like, of course.
Just hang on.
Kate
http://survivingmysisterssuicide.blogspot.com/
Mine too, and I would venture the same advice. As well as Ashley’s.
I’m so sorry Cara.
Peace
Love
and Hope
to you and those you hold dear.
Please be aware that many hospices have grief support services for the community that may be able to help you through this time.
Blessed Be.
Thank you, everyone, for your warm words and advice. They really do mean a lot right now.
I’m so sorry.
I nearly took my own life this summer, but got myself to the hospital in time. Sometimes I need reminders of why I did that-knowing that I have friends who would suffer as you…that reminds me why I stayed.
Peace. Be well.
sorry to hear that Cara.
I’m sorry for your loss.
Look after yourself & give yourself all the time you need to start to deal with it.
My condolences, Cara. I’ve got a lot to say about suicide, but I realize this isn’t the time. I know how you feel though, lost one of my closest friends to suicide a couple years ago… it’s very painful.
Cara,
I’m truly sorry about this. I’ve been through something similar– my thoughts are with you.
I’m so sorry.
I am so sorry, Cara.
Oh Cara, I’m so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and her family.
I’m really sorry to hear this news; I’m sure the world was a better place with your friend in it. I’ll pray for those struggling with her loss.
That is quite a terrible thing to go through. I wish you all the best and send you warm thoughts from Sweden.
*hugs*
Seconding all the hope and peace wishes. I’m very sorry to hear about this.
I’m so sorry to hear that, Cara. xx
I was just feeling sorry for myself over something relatively mundane and insignificant, so this was a well-deserved kick in the rear for me. My troubles pale in comparison.
I’m so, so sorry for your loss Cara. I hope you are able to smile again soon.
I’m so sorry Cara.
you have my condolences, Cara.
thinking of you today, cara. xoxo.
Cara, you will be in my thoughts as well.
I read your blog often, and never comment, but I wanted to say that I am very sad to hear about your friend, and I am thinking of you.
I’m so, so sorry Cara.
Best wishes, Cara. Thinking about you today.
I’ve lurked here a while, but ::hugs::.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Thinking about you today.
I’m so sorry Cara. My thoughts are with you.
I’m so very sorry. I wish you all the strength and love you and your friend’s family will need in the time ahead.
so very sorry, cara. do take care.
Dear Cara,
My condolences for your loss, too. Death of a loved one is never an easy thing to endure. I wish you love. http://search.playlist.com/tracks/immortality
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PA1xzuP0nkI&feature=related (I don’t know the meaning of these Hawaiian lyrics but the music is so sweet.)
My condolences, Cara.
(((hug)))
Oh, cara, I’m so so sorry–take care of yourself. I send you much love.
I’m so sorry for your loss *hugs*
Take all the time you need!
I havn’t replied to this yet because I don’t know what to say. I still don’t. Peace and love. x
My thoughts are with you Cara.
How horrible– I’m so sorry.
I’m so sorry to hear about this, Cara. Like a few others, I also know what it’s like to go through the suicide of a best friend. It took me quite a while to get over it, but with the help of a few other friends, the desire to want others in my life to feel my love, and the realization that it wasn’t my fault, I was finally able to pull through.
Take the time you need and turn to those around you for support.
I am so sorry, Cara. My thoughts are with you.
I’m so sorry to hear this, Cara. Sending you warm thoughts and virtual hugs.
Cara, I love you, and I’m so sorry for your loss.
If you need anything at all, please don’t hesistate to get in touch. *hug* Be safe, take care of yourself.
I am so very sorry for your loss. Sending you light and peace.
How did I miss this? I’m so very sorry for your loss. Take all the time you need.
Cara, I am so sorry.
I’m so sorry that this happened. I wish you peace, serenity and healing.
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