Comments on: Rape Victims Tell of Mistreatment by the NYPD http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/ Sun, 05 Feb 2012 14:47:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: “This Is a Maid”: Which Rape Accusers Are Worth Listening To? — The Curvature http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-20439 “This Is a Maid”: Which Rape Accusers Are Worth Listening To? — The Curvature Fri, 14 Jan 2011 18:05:51 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-20439 [...] covered up, shushed. Victims are blamed, accused of petty ulterior motives, called liars or worse. Police dismiss complaints, hospitals refuse to do rape kits, and prosecutors decline to file charges — even when [...] [...] covered up, shushed. Victims are blamed, accused of petty ulterior motives, called liars or worse. Police dismiss complaints, hospitals refuse to do rape kits, and prosecutors decline to file charges — even when [...]

]]> By: Empathy and Kyriarchy at Questioning Transphobia http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-19464 Empathy and Kyriarchy at Questioning Transphobia Fri, 27 Aug 2010 22:05:51 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-19464 [...] When you read about women – any women – being raped, you see people talk about how she shouldn’t have worn that dress, or had that drink. Or she shouldn’t go out partying if she doesn’t want to have sex. Or how women have a responsibility to take actions to defend ourselves from rapists because apparently it’s too much fucking work to ask that nobody fucking commit rape. [...] [...] When you read about women – any women – being raped, you see people talk about how she shouldn’t have worn that dress, or had that drink. Or she shouldn’t go out partying if she doesn’t want to have sex. Or how women have a responsibility to take actions to defend ourselves from rapists because apparently it’s too much fucking work to ask that nobody fucking commit rape. [...]

]]> By: what we talk about when we talk about rape cases – deviance, rape culture, and the courtroom « Pocochina’s Weblog http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-18950 what we talk about when we talk about rape cases – deviance, rape culture, and the courtroom « Pocochina’s Weblog Mon, 05 Jul 2010 22:28:07 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-18950 [...] anticipation of punishment for breaking the code of silence.  Those who do report are subject to re-victimization by the police.  They are then subjected not only to the presence of their rapist in a court of law, but to a [...] [...] anticipation of punishment for breaking the code of silence.  Those who do report are subject to re-victimization by the police.  They are then subjected not only to the presence of their rapist in a court of law, but to a [...]

]]> By: Former Detective Tells of Intimidation to Drop Rape Charges Against Football Players — The Curvature http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-18608 Former Detective Tells of Intimidation to Drop Rape Charges Against Football Players — The Curvature Mon, 21 Jun 2010 18:58:33 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-18608 [...] last week, I wrote about how the tendency for police forces to engage in rape apologism or even sexual violence is not just an issue of individual officers engaging in bad behavior, but [...] [...] last week, I wrote about how the tendency for police forces to engage in rape apologism or even sexual violence is not just an issue of individual officers engaging in bad behavior, but [...]

]]> By: GabrielD http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-18446 GabrielD Sun, 13 Jun 2010 03:42:03 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-18446 I just wanted to second Kali. We can be here for you if you need us. As a transguy, I can understand the fear of police abuse. I have never reported any of the times I have been raped. I couldn't stand the case being dismissed, and I couldn't stand police mocking me, ignoring me, implying that I had it coming... I already suffer from depression and occasional suicidal ideation. We can be here to support you, whether you choose to report or not, and we can listen and share. We'll love and care for you when you need us. I just wanted to second Kali. We can be here for you if you need us.

As a transguy, I can understand the fear of police abuse. I have never reported any of the times I have been raped. I couldn’t stand the case being dismissed, and I couldn’t stand police mocking me, ignoring me, implying that I had it coming… I already suffer from depression and occasional suicidal ideation.

We can be here to support you, whether you choose to report or not, and we can listen and share. We’ll love and care for you when you need us.

]]> By: Kali http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-18443 Kali Sat, 12 Jun 2010 22:27:02 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-18443 You'll have people like us. I know online community isn't the same as being able to come home to your friends and family in person and find solace in their arms. But you can find people like us online, and know that we will believe you. We won't victim-blame and act like anything you did could have possibly begun to make you responsible for the crime commited against you. We'll respect your decision on whether or not to go to the authorities, because we know what it's like. And we know that hatred against folks who are trans* is part of your experience - and something we do not engage in, because to us, you are human and you are the only person who can really know your gender and decide what kind of gender presentation you want to have. I speak for myself, but I suspect that especially in places like here, you will find other voices that will join mine. ~Kali You’ll have people like us. I know online community isn’t the same as being able to come home to your friends and family in person and find solace in their arms. But you can find people like us online, and know that we will believe you. We won’t victim-blame and act like anything you did could have possibly begun to make you responsible for the crime commited against you. We’ll respect your decision on whether or not to go to the authorities, because we know what it’s like. And we know that hatred against folks who are trans* is part of your experience – and something we do not engage in, because to us, you are human and you are the only person who can really know your gender and decide what kind of gender presentation you want to have.

I speak for myself, but I suspect that especially in places like here, you will find other voices that will join mine.

~Kali

]]> By: GallingGalla http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-18404 GallingGalla Fri, 11 Jun 2010 02:52:41 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-18404 As a trans woman, I already decided years ago that I would not report any crime committed against me to police. Police abuse against trans women is rampant, and includes rape. I am *certain* that I will be at least verbally abused by police should I report rape or sexual assault to them. Another source of revictimization of victims of rape and sexual assault is friends, family, roommates, and other acquaintances (of any gender). How many victims of rape find that they have to hide the incident from these acquaintances, lest they be lectured by them - "Well, why didn't you contact police? Well, I think you'll just have to go through the humiliation! You don't want that rapist to go free, do you?" These people often refuse to acknowledge that rapists go free anyway, because the police-industrial system gives them a pass. Hence, rape victims can get a triple-whammy - from their rapist, from the police, from acquaintances engaging in victim-blaming. It's quite a lonely feeling to know that, should I be raped again, I won't have anybody whom I can trust to talk with about the situation. And I don't know what I'll do if I'm raped or assaulted and come home to my house-share with marks. As a trans woman, I already decided years ago that I would not report any crime committed against me to police. Police abuse against trans women is rampant, and includes rape. I am *certain* that I will be at least verbally abused by police should I report rape or sexual assault to them.

Another source of revictimization of victims of rape and sexual assault is friends, family, roommates, and other acquaintances (of any gender). How many victims of rape find that they have to hide the incident from these acquaintances, lest they be lectured by them – “Well, why didn’t you contact police? Well, I think you’ll just have to go through the humiliation! You don’t want that rapist to go free, do you?” These people often refuse to acknowledge that rapists go free anyway, because the police-industrial system gives them a pass.

Hence, rape victims can get a triple-whammy – from their rapist, from the police, from acquaintances engaging in victim-blaming.

It’s quite a lonely feeling to know that, should I be raped again, I won’t have anybody whom I can trust to talk with about the situation. And I don’t know what I’ll do if I’m raped or assaulted and come home to my house-share with marks.

]]> By: Katrina http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-18379 Katrina Mon, 07 Jun 2010 20:21:06 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-18379 Stories like this upset me personally because I feel like my silence does nothing more than protect my rapist. But adding to the number of cases thrown out makes me wonder if I would discourage someone else who was raped by a boyfriend. I just don't see the point of reporting when the current culture would just say it wasn't really rape because I invited him over for sex, consented to the sexual activity that happened right before the rape, or was asking for it by being sexually active in the first place. I've been blaming myself for 4 years now. I don't need an untrained officer to blame me as well. Which brings up a disturbing question, in my opinion. Does New York really have to train cops not to blame the rape victim? They don't blame robber victims or car jacking victims. Is society so screwed up when it comes to rape that even our LAW inforcement needs to be told a victim wasn't asking to be rape/sexually assalted/ect.? Do sexual harassment cases (especially verbal as apposed to physical) even get the time of day? Considering that I live in the state of NY, this article really hits close to home. Stories like this upset me personally because I feel like my silence does nothing more than protect my rapist. But adding to the number of cases thrown out makes me wonder if I would discourage someone else who was raped by a boyfriend. I just don’t see the point of reporting when the current culture would just say it wasn’t really rape because I invited him over for sex, consented to the sexual activity that happened right before the rape, or was asking for it by being sexually active in the first place. I’ve been blaming myself for 4 years now. I don’t need an untrained officer to blame me as well.

Which brings up a disturbing question, in my opinion. Does New York really have to train cops not to blame the rape victim? They don’t blame robber victims or car jacking victims. Is society so screwed up when it comes to rape that even our LAW inforcement needs to be told a victim wasn’t asking to be rape/sexually assalted/ect.? Do sexual harassment cases (especially verbal as apposed to physical) even get the time of day?

Considering that I live in the state of NY, this article really hits close to home.

]]> By: Breaking my Silence « Imagine Today http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-18377 Breaking my Silence « Imagine Today Mon, 07 Jun 2010 18:07:53 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-18377 [...] it characterizes the callousness that we, as a society, have developed regarding sexual assault. This blog post also fits in. Its HORRIFYING how callous our news organizations and even police forces can be [...] [...] it characterizes the callousness that we, as a society, have developed regarding sexual assault. This blog post also fits in. Its HORRIFYING how callous our news organizations and even police forces can be [...]

]]> By: Interesting posts, weekend of 6/5/10 « Feminists with Female Sexual Dysfunction http://thecurvature.com/2010/06/04/rape-victims-tell-of-mistreatmet-by-the-nypd/#comment-18370 Interesting posts, weekend of 6/5/10 « Feminists with Female Sexual Dysfunction Mon, 07 Jun 2010 02:04:01 +0000 http://thecurvature.com/?p=8533#comment-18370 [...] Rape Victims Tell of Mistreatment by the NYPD – [Trigger warning] Police officers mistreating and asking the wrong questions when interviewing rape victims, and not going far enough to address shortcomings. Sometimes rape victims do not go to the authorities or press charges and if you ask why that is, this post might answer your question. This really happens. [...] [...] Rape Victims Tell of Mistreatment by the NYPD – [Trigger warning] Police officers mistreating and asking the wrong questions when interviewing rape victims, and not going far enough to address shortcomings. Sometimes rape victims do not go to the authorities or press charges and if you ask why that is, this post might answer your question. This really happens. [...]

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