Comments on: Group Suggests Age Appropriate Sex Education? Time to Freak Out.

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By: Jenna

Jenna — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 23:09:20 +0000

I want to know where their “experts” are getting their facts when they claim that educating children leads to those kids having sex earlier or as a snap decision. Keeping young people ignorant leads to them engaging in various activities just to end the mystery of it, not tge other way around. It’s almost as if, since the evidence doesn’t support their opinions, AT ALL, they just decided ‘what I say goes cause I’m the expert.’.

My parents never discussed sex with us at all even though they were firm proponents of the parent’s rights to keep their kids ignorant. I could have had all manner of bad things befall me if our health teacher hadn’t invited a speaker from Planned Parenthood to come out and supplement the useless abstinence program I was subjected to. I was on the verge of having sex for the first time before I was “ready” just to see what all the fuss was about. Luckily, I knew enough to demand a condom and we didn’t have one which forced me to wait a bit longer. Actual evidence DOES show a correlation between comprehensive education and postponing sex (along with an increase in safer sex) but this news is not going to make these parents happy because they’re still waiting for the program that keeps their precious snowflakes lily-white pure and infantilized. Your precious angel will do the dirty deed, statistically before they leave your home for college. I wish there was a program that made parents accept that reality.

By: Kitty

Kitty — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 09:09:54 +0000

Yes, heaven forbid the little ones know the proper names for their “naughty bits” and understand the meaning of consent. That said, the only lesson I remember getting about touch in kindergarden and first grade was “keep your hands to yourself,” which could apply to anything from hitting to handholding. Teaching that any form of touch/affection is bad seems like a pretty depressing lesson to me.

By: The Chemist

The Chemist — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 16:07:32 +0000

I really can’t add anything without repeating what’s already in this post. So: Right on! Especially on the whole learning consent thing.

By: Katrina

Katrina — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 15:42:18 +0000

I’ve already decided that I’m going to teach my kids (if I have any) about safe sex myself. If I wait for the schools to teach them, they’ll be 12 before they learn the words penis and vigina. I’ve already got a rough draft in my head based on what I went through as a kid.

3 years old – good touch/bad touch
5 years old – proper names of body parts and sex (in “daddy puts in penis in mommy’s vigina to make our family” way. Very cliche but simple.)
10 years old – menstruation (or whenever it starts for duaghters. I would also tell sons since I hate how menstruation is treated like a dirty thing women do that needs to be hiden from all men. <.<)
12 years old – safe sex (or earlier. Depends on what they stumble upon while around peers/TV/level of natural curiousity/ect.)

The schools and government can argue until they're blue in the face. I'll just handle sex ed for my children my way. I don't know how many times I would butt heads with their father about my 'schdule' or if sons even what sex ed from their mother at all; But, I would just cross those bridges when I got to them. :)

By: preying mantis

preying mantis — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 12:31:46 +0000

Teaching grade-schoolers that it’s not okay for people to touch their genitals without their permission? Are there any depths to which those evil progressives on the anti-molestation bandwagon won’t stoop?

By: Astrid

Astrid — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 12:25:06 +0000

So has early sex ed actually been implemented, if it was recommended years ago? I do hope so, cause all it will do is actually *educate* children. Then they can choose what to do with that education. If truly compehrensive sex ed hasn’t been implemented, and I gather that it hasn’t, how can someone say that the more they know the earlier they have sex? I bet it wasn’t even researched.

By: Kitty

Kitty — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 11:55:18 +0000

p.s. This is my favourite bit:

Help children and young people to develop negotiation skills, to understand their rights and responsibilities – to themselves and others – and to understand what ‘consent’ means. This includes learning how to resist pressure to do things they are not comfortable with – and that it is wrong to put pressure on others to do something they don’t want to do.

By: Kitty

Kitty — Fri, 18 Jun 2010 08:52:31 +0000

If anyone wants to read the draft guidance in full, it’s here:

http://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/index.jsp?action=folder&o=49239

And Cara, feel free to email me if you want more detailed background on this one.