When your masculine instinct feels like there’s something wrong in your relationships, or that your partner’s actions are somewhat unusual or weird, especially if she is not acting how she used to be, I can understand that your first reaction is to shut off the voice telling you that, but chances are your instinctual gut feeling, is right, this article will clarify the rights from the wrongs, and whether your woman slept with someone else or not.
If you are doubting your partner’s loyalty, the first conversation you need to have is with yourself, instead of taking drastic measures and ending up ruining something that you worked hard to build.
Before we get to the signs, let’s be clear that you can never be absolutely sure about the infidelity by making assumptions and analyzing what’s not there, the only way to do so is either with your partner telling you upfront what’s going on or by gathering damning evidence about your partner’s cheating, it could be pictures, text messages, and I really hope I don’t have to mention that I do not want you stalking, or playing detective Sherlock Holmes and gather the evidence of infidelity.
Your suspicions might persist and not leave you, and you may end up having to ask your partner directly, but before you do that, there are many things, subtle or maybe not so subtle hints that can be used to draw conclusions of cheating.
There are physical signs of cheating, there are instinctual signs also, to prevent you from turning to paranoia, these are the things to look out for
10 Signs That Reveal Your Wife or Girlfriend Slept With Someone Else
1-She is extremely private and protective of her phone
In most long term relationships I’ve seen, the couples can freely go through each other’s phones without an issue, in some exceptions, or if they are new, they keep it private, here I’m assuming you have had years with this person, and that’s why this sudden change in behavior can be a very clear sign of cheating.
Let me explain if your girl’s passcode moved from 6 digits to a difficult mathematical equation, then we got a problem going, if she puts the phone upside down, that’s also a sign, there is literally no reason for anyone to put their phones facedown, if you suddenly grab your girl’s phone to google something and she jumps on you like a predator jumps its prey, you need no further evidence.
Whatever a girl does in private, will be known through her phone, if she is actually cheating on you, her phone is her pandora’s box, and she is the one that guards it.
2- She lies about things, sometimes obviously
A woman that cheats, is liable to lie on a daily basis, to everyone about everything, she walks and lies, walks and lies, that is the consequence of living a double life, she will lie about where she was, who she is with, what time she came back or got out of the house, she will stay late to work and justify herself with obvious lies hoping she can charm you enough, cheating partners are liars, by nature, be careful.
If you catch her in a lie or two, that’s a dead giveaway that you may have caught one or two lies, but you’ll always be thinking “Just how many lies did I NOT catch on?”, it is not a good situation to be in, but it is a sign.
3- Words allow room for lies, but never body language
Words are cheap, they are like magic spells women use to anger, calm, flatter, and manipulate men, words are so cheap that it is frightening how many men can trust them.
But body language? There is absolutely no room for lying there, it is the loud truth that is revealed to you if you simply LISTEN TO IT.
It is damn near impossible for any manipulator or cheater to not expose themselves, many signs are going to slip by the manipulative façade, you have to be attentive enough to catch them.
Ask yourself these questions, is she avoiding eye contact with me? Has her sexual desire dropped significantly if not disappeared altogether?
4. Picking up unhealthy habits
Whether it is smoking, drinking or anything else of this sort, if you have noticed her abusing legal or illegal substances, it is a sign that she is coping with guilt, and most people are lazy and therefore they choose unhealthy habits that are easily accessible, binge eating and getting fat is another coping mechanism for you to take notice of, women cope when they are unhappy in a relationship.
5-She is more distant than usual
This goes beyond taking a break, this goes through her avoiding you physically, to avoiding conversations, it creates an awkwardness in the air, it is almost as if she is uncomfortable being with you, we could theorize this in a certain way, she might be feeling fear of confronting you, or she may be scared that you might catch on the signs if you have not already caught on to her schemes.
6- The sex is gone
Let me make this very clear, when a woman is cheating, for men who see it from a logical perspective, she is cheating on her husband with her lover, from a woman’s emotional perspective? She is cheating on her lover with you.
You can kiss your sex life goodbye because if she is sleeping with someone else, she is already sexually satisfied, this one will hurt you the most, but it is the most obvious way to know that you should end the relationship, cheating or not, if there’s no sex, there’s no love.
7- She’s unavailable for longer hours than usual
This is understandable if she is working, but if it seems like she is overdoing it, and especially if she is getting her best dress and perfumes for work but barely takes care of herself at home, coupled with late-night hours? Oh man, are you in for a rude awakening.
The excuses are the usual ones, battery, hanging out with friends, signal, but if this persists for weeks? Months? It is a dead giveaway, this is your sign that she may be sleeping around.
8- The heat of the relationship suddenly disappears
Humans are more complex than they can ever know, if you felt a certain way about your partner, and now all the feels are gone? It may be more than the honeymoon phase ending, cuz that was over long ago, this is your gut feeling telling you “hey, something isn’t right here.”
If there’s a cold aura going on in your relationship, then this is cause to investigate if the other signs apply, but when a girl feels guilty, or if she is not into you, it is going to be colder than ice.
I think the moment your partner seems like they stopped caring, is when you can tell they have someone else, women hate being alone, and they would never jump outside of a relationship that way unless they have another one lined up.
9- Future promises and plans no longer mean anything
If you have ever scheduled a trip, vocation, or anything that made her feel enthusiastic at that moment, and now she is completely disinterested, that’s a telltale sign, couples, and especially married couples, are always making plans for a certain year, if you two have had your own adventure, and now all the enthusiasm is gone, then that’s your sign, women always want their fun, if they are not getting it with you, they are getting it without you.
10- She is never home anymore
Let’s do a count of what we have so far, we have overprotected her phone, lying, withholding sex, being generally cold, and avoiding you physically, and now she isn’t even home anymore?
If you let things develop to this point, then it is game over, no, I correct myself, it was game over LONG ago, if you feel lonely in your relationship, then why are you still in the relationship if your partner has already physically and mentally checked out of it?
It is over, you might as well just leave, or make an almost futile attempt to clear things up with her, but as I said, if it got here, there is nothing left for you to save except for your own sanity.