What does a submissive male mean?
The submissive male, if we want to keep the description simple, is the nice guy, the beta male, you can spot him from miles away, the submissive, non-confrontational behavior that plagues today’s male population.
Do keep in mind, we are not talking about whether you hit the gym or not, whether you make bank or not, or whether you’re generally attractive, this is about mindset, the holistic approach to male dominance.
It is clear to everyone that men are becoming soft, this is a result of a very comfortable life without real challenges, this isn’t saying that men are getting softer physically, which is a reality, but we are talking about mental toughness.
Men are no longer need to work hard to get their daily dose of sense of accomplishment, there is no challenge, there is no war, there is no difficulty, dopamine is one porn video or one sugar-filled meal, or one video game level up away, the desire for dopamine coupled with our own lazy survivalist nature in an easy access technological world, is a perfect formula for fat, soft, fragile, men.
Men today are almost rewarded for existing, there is no special trophy for the winner because everyone gets one, this will discourage both winner and loser from trying, because why the hell would they? If everyone is equal then why put effort?
What does Female Led Relationship (FLR) mean?
To put it bluntly, it is a relationship where a man is a follower instead of the leader, these are relationships are where women call the shots, they get all the money, do whatever they deem appropriate or necessary, while the man is either a supplicant to the woman, or her follower as she handles all the responsibilities that come with the relationship.
This goes without saying, but having the female lead the relationship will make her tired, and pissed off most of the time, and, what the hell are you doing as a man in the first place if she is the one doing everything?
This is not to say that it is a bad thing necessary to have a female leader, but in the overwhelming majority of cases, it is the men that have the ability to take on the pressure of responsibility.
Big Signs Of Submissive Male
1. Shy, Socially Awkward, and Indecisive
This is a common trait in modern men, they are simply not sociable, the highest social activity today’s men engage in is online gaming, and that is saying something!
They are also unable to make decisions for themselves, they delegate their lives to other people, sometimes it could be parents, sometimes it could be their girlfriend, they fail miserably at being their own emotional centers, and cannot bear the crushing weight of responsibility, there is a lot of comforts that comes with having other people calling the shots for you because in case you fail, you can always, and I mean always, play the victim card.
When it comes to shyness, most societies find it a repulsive trait in men, never mind what other people say, or what the media enforces through publicities, women like dominant men, other men respect dominant men, because “dominant men get shit done”.
In the end, results are what matters, and while it may seem dehumanizing, I have to ask a question, since when were we ever treated with unearned respect? If you are a man trying to make it in a men’s world, keep your batman origin story out of the equation, you will have no pity, you will have no sympathy, you can only have respect, and you can only have it through dominance.
2. Eager To Serve Others Orders
Most of these character traits originate from childhood, sadly the absolute minority of people bother to correct their submissive and self-destructive behavior, from being conditioned to bullying and humiliation or even abuse, it gets a lot worse if the person realizes in his old age, how much shit he took, and how much he let people walk all over him.
At moments like these you have to look back to your past, how have you been acting around others? Are you a people pleaser? How is that working for your friendships or romantic relationships? If it is not working, then it would be the definition of insanity to keep doing the same thing and expecting a different result.
At some point of your life, you have to say no, you have to face your bullies, whether it is the high school in childhood or the workplace in adulthood, in every single environment, professional or otherwise, there are alpha males that are dominant, and beta males that are submissive, bullying is bad, no doubt about that, but like most bad things, we will come face to face with them at one point or another.
Most character traits form in childhood and stick around in your adult life. Most people get bullied in life but guess what, you will have to deal with them throughout your life in different forms.
Ask yourself one question, does it feel good to be a submissive male, or does it hurt you so badly that you feel as if your inner dominant nature is wanting to be unleashed and punishing you whenever you act against it?
3. Sensitive And Emotional
You cannot afford to be offended by reality, just as much as you cannot afford the consequences of ignoring reality, being the beta male nice guy archetype that constantly reduces himself to upgrade other people’s image is something you will end up paying for, both short and long term.
Being overly sensitive paints an even bigger target on your back, people know who to mess with, bullies always target the weakest and most emotionally reactive kid, they get a kick out of it, they are considered “easy game”.
In fact, if my article managed to provoke an emotional reaction in you, then this is a sign that you may have not faced these truths, but you acknowledge them.
With that out of the way, I hope you take everything I said into consideration, it is very easy to be an attractive male nowadays since there is very little competition in the first place.
What Causes A Man To Be Submissive Male?
Lies, not one lie, not two lies, not from one source, I am talking about lies on a massive scale, parents, society, women, the media, when every single source is telling you to be a nice guy, to sacrifice yourself to uplift others, to be the stepdad that stepped up.
Men are logical creatures, they take the information given to them literally, therefore, they change themselves this way, going against what nature is telling us, in order to gain validation and social approval, and it is poetic irony, to have the same ideals you were told to aspire to, hit you right in the face when men who ignored the rules got the bigger slice of the cake, be smart first, be strong first, then be the good guy.